You are 18.. do you want your bf to be the only person you ever talk to? Do you not want friends to hang out with or connect with? To share stuff with? Grow bonds with? Whn you want to get married oneday have them throw u a bridal shower and be your bridesmaids?
If this dude cheats on u.. you will have NO ONE!
do you see how utterly ridiculous that is?
No one that cares about u wants u to be soley dependent on him! Is he your dad? Why do u need his permission to make friends?
This is very very unhealthy relationship! It has all the traits of an emotionally abusive relationship.
Don't walk eyes open into a miserable life because of his insecurities. You are so young. When you go to college or start working do u really want to have to report to him and ignore co workers or fellow classmates trying to connect with you?
I'm introverted. My husband is not. He was the one when i was 18 pushing me to be more open and make friends so that we could have healthy boundaries. Where he wldnt need to worry about me feeling lonely if he had to be with his friends or family.
And if i was at university that I'd have people to depend on incase i had an emergency or was just overwhelmed and needed support instead of staying in my dorm room by myself waiting for him to call.
That's a healthy relationship! You want your partner to grow! Not to be attached to you 24/7 and guilt them if they meet people they actually like.
Please realize how utterly messed up his reasoning is. And you cn be supportive as much as u want to be to his personal issues but when it starts affecting you and becomes a rule he lords over you, that has NOTHING to do with you.. u need to step back.
If they arenβt on their feet by now, there isnβt much more you can do. You provided them an absolutely amazing opportunity. Time for them to fly.
Loads of potential? Where my girl?
This dude is controlling and toxic af!
You are 18.. do you want your bf to be the only person you ever talk to? Do you not want friends to hang out with or connect with? To share stuff with? Grow bonds with? Whn you want to get married oneday have them throw u a bridal shower and be your bridesmaids?
If this dude cheats on u.. you will have NO ONE!
do you see how utterly ridiculous that is?
No one that cares about u wants u to be soley dependent on him! Is he your dad? Why do u need his permission to make friends?
This is very very unhealthy relationship! It has all the traits of an emotionally abusive relationship.
Don't walk eyes open into a miserable life because of his insecurities. You are so young. When you go to college or start working do u really want to have to report to him and ignore co workers or fellow classmates trying to connect with you?
I'm introverted. My husband is not. He was the one when i was 18 pushing me to be more open and make friends so that we could have healthy boundaries. Where he wldnt need to worry about me feeling lonely if he had to be with his friends or family.
And if i was at university that I'd have people to depend on incase i had an emergency or was just overwhelmed and needed support instead of staying in my dorm room by myself waiting for him to call.
That's a healthy relationship! You want your partner to grow! Not to be attached to you 24/7 and guilt them if they meet people they actually like.
Please realize how utterly messed up his reasoning is. And you cn be supportive as much as u want to be to his personal issues but when it starts affecting you and becomes a rule he lords over you, that has NOTHING to do with you.. u need to step back.
He isn't good for you!