❤NICK AND NORA❤https://fansly.com/viva_lla_nora the nude live! sex chat with hottest babes with a hd cam
7K Share
❤NICK AND NORA❤https://fansly.com/viva_lla_nora, 20 y.o.
Location: ESTONIA
Room subject: ? CUM ON HER CUTE FACE ?
To Start online video press there
On-line Live Sex Chat rooms ❤NICK AND NORA❤https://fansly.com/viva_lla_nora
">
Everyday I’m more and more annoyed that these fucking people exist URGH
This is totally true. space is a good thing. I just don’t know what to do with myself in that space. It’s suffocating.
FREE ADVICE——— Get Out before YOU GET DUMPED , while shes exploring the Single Life ! Sounds like she has Already Checked out of your Relationship ! She has an ITCH that needs to be scratched ! It'll get Worse the Longer you hang around !
Charm =/= physical appearance.
You having a significant other would not prevent him from catching feelings.
Him having a significant other would not prevent him from catching feelings, unfortunately.
So it could very well be it.
Or he thought you did something flirtatious and wanted to shut it down pronto.
It takes a lot of practice, preferably with dildo unless you have a boyfriend, then go with that.
You have to be fully aroused/lubricated Whether it be your fingers, dildo or man's D, be in a position where the object/him is being angled upwards(toward the belly button) Good tempo is important as well. Find out what feels good for you You can edge yourself first, get close to an orgasm by clitoral stimulation, and then try for vaginal it could be easier to reach
What are you hoping to accomplish here
Was that before or after he confessed to you that he was really a long-lost twin and he'd come to your town to claim his rightful position as the true heir of the Quartermaine family?
Do we know that the friend is a woman?
Maybe the friend is a guy..
Very high
Bro you don't know how stupid you sound rn. You don't know anything other than what I've said. Bro you need to reevaluate the life for getting in an argument over this shit.
His son is 4, he’s not going to have any real idea what’s going on unless the other adults influence him. Do you have legal custody of your niece? Is there any way he could mess that up? Those would be my concerns. Other than that, I’d tell him to stfu and stf out of your way. If he’s really being a dick, give home (or his new wife) a bill for taking care of his kid. Do you have any contact with your niece’s mother’s family? Maybe go there for Christmas.
This sounds so much like the drama my mother’s family produces all the time, which is why I went NC with them almost 30 years ago.
Any serious relationship can cause these thoughts. You may want to look into therapy to have a space to talk out your anxieties and focus on what you can do to help you communicate these with your partner. Communication is the most important thing for relationships.
Nah, love comes at all ages. Besides, it's not anyone's business but yours. If you're happy, don't worry about what everyone else has to say.
Call the police and never see him again. Ever.
Condoms are almost as effective as the success rate of vasectomies, when used appropriately.
From personal experience dealing with mental issues, the best way is to be supportive but maintain your own boundaries. Surgery, which is not guaranteed to be reversible, is a perfectly reasonable boundary.
A relationship that only improves when threatened with termination isn’t healthy.
Delete it immediately and block her.
You don't respond, you block and move on
Pretty disgusting and stalkerish almost if you would still ask her on another date at that point.
Take a hint, on-line your life, there's a hundred million other women.
Are you sure you haven’t done something to hurt him and he is incapable of having sex, so he’s using video games as a distraction and a way to avoid the actual issue? Reason for me asking is because, you mentioned that he would take 2-3 hours to cuddle. However, at least 10 minutes of that time for most guys would be used for sex.
maybe it's maybellene
Believe it or not, a large portion of marriages are people who broke up and got back together a significant time later.
A lot of people care about each other and take each other for granted though and without that actual real consequence of being left, some people won't change how they treat someone.
This is really gross behavior. You’re only two months in, get out now, it’ll probably just get worse
100% bad behaviour on his part. Big red flag that he pushed you after you said no. He will likely make this a habit. You don't know him well enough to say its a pattern of abuse but you do know you didn't like it and he doesn't seem to care he upset you or he would at least apologise. I would not feel safe around someone like that.
This is really gross behavior. You’re only two months in, get out now, it’ll probably just get worse
Hah no they aren't right. Don't give that ring back, it belongs to your family.
Reading the title I was ready to lean the other way but the ring was your mother's, not his, nor did he buy it for you.
Look into defamation of character, libel (written word), and slander (spoken word) and see if these apply to your situation. If you think any of those do then contact a lawyer and look into a cease and desist or other options. Do this before responding in any way to that family or him. Keep documentation of everything written and if you have hateful voice-mail keep those too.
If it doesn't apply then you could make a post on social media as well saying how you hate gold diggers that attempt to claim your dead mother's engagement ring as their own. This sentence is petty though and would bring you down to their level so really think before doing this one.
Otherwise the simplest route is to block and ignore them and clarify that it was your mother's ring if asked. If they threaten you with court, contact a lawyer and let them. You'll most likely win (barring something off the wall or bizarre) and if you keep all the nasty crap they are saying about you (and if can be proven to be about you, lawyers can argue that front) then maybe you'll walk away with compensation for emotional damage or something.
Good luck OP
It sounds like excuses because that's what it is, follow your gut before you waste anymore of your time.
Your wife needs to get a good therapist. This feels reactive on her part: either unconscious competition with your daughter-in-law or a mid-life crisis brought on by becoming a grandmother. She really isn’t thinking this through. She would be obliterating your ability to have any freedom until your 60’s!! That is hugely foolish. And the fact that she had a health scare should have underscored what an irresponsible idea and geriatric pregnancy is. Not to mention the increased chance of you having a second child with a disability which would require some incredibly detailed life planning for people your age, since you can’t force your adult son to take on responsibilities you are too old to see your way through. There is A LOT of reality she needs to face. And the fact that she is turning sex into a weapon is really troubling on just a basic level of respect and partnership. If I were you I would start setting some boundaries with her and tell her to get some help and smarten the hell up if she wants to keep your marriage in tact.
Can I be your friend ?
First off as a girl who is in a relationship with someone who has a very hot time showing his emotions unless he is drunk/high or vulnerable, I would never ever hold his emrions/ feelings against him, especially about his grandparents, that's not right. Personally I think you need to break up with her, she's toxic the fact she just sat there while u cried and didn't try to help shows the real her, she doesn't like dealing with emotions that aren't her own, and the fact she asked you to open up to her and that was her reaction shows how much of a peice of shit she is, not to mention the fact that you had tried to open up to her and she didn't do anything but sit there and not comfort or reassure you, she is truly a peace of shit, and this is coming from a female who not only has a bf who has issues with communication and exspressing his feelings, this is not ok and shouldn't be tolerated
Everyone is ignoring what you really asked. Yes, tell your wife. Then she might actually leave and you two can stop the toxic cycle and raise a healthy, happy child.
I would move on. He's clearly still in love with his ex or he wouldn't have mentioned her. He should not be comparing you to her in any way, shape or form. He doesn't love you or respect you. You deserve to have a partner in life that will worship the ground you walk on, not treat you like this.
“super super ground her”. And morons are actually responding to this post like its serious.
You need to sit down, and do a little future planning with her. Discuss what’s going to happen if you decide to get married, have kids, etc. Are you going to to join your accounts (which given what you wrote, I wouldn’t suggest) or are you going to separate finances? Can you both afford to on-line a lavish lifestyle and still save and invest for the future or is this going to fall on just you.
My fiancé and I have the same mindset when it comes to money and our lifestyle, and we did our future planning very early on and still talk about it as time passes. We have the same goals and work together toward it. Thing is, right now, I can save more than he does (he had loans), but we’re both working toward the same future goal so I have no problem with this.
With my best friend however, her bf makes less than she does but he spends it all on friends, hanging out, and material things. And because he has a side job, he cannot help her take out a mortgage for their future home. So she has to work and save for the both of them. She wasn’t happy with their current situation but now she’s learned to live with it and accept that she won’t settle down anytime soon.
So while we’re both in the same position (both of us as the ones saving much more than our SO), our future is still very different.
u/Tech-tonic-, it looks like you're trying to post a throwaway submission. Your account is too young and/or your comment karma is too low.
The right way to do it is to create a brand new Reddit account that begins with ThrowRA.
Please create a new account that starts with ThrowRA in the username and try again. Please note that we will not make exceptions to this rule.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
You’re welcome!
“That isn't appropriate and makes me uncomfortable. I'd appreciate it if you wouldn't do it again.” You need to establish a more firm boundary and soon or else your girlfriend will definitely get the wrong idea. Then stop engaging with her friend. Stop replying to anything she says that shifts the conversation towards innuendo, or even better, stop replying all together.
Here's the clue: dump him. No one should be with someone they don't like. He doesn't like you. You don't like him. Tell him that he is free of you and he can go find the focused, passionate person he deserves. See what he does then.
He is negging you, making you doubt yourself, and being a shitty human to you. Get him out of your life. He is not nice. You deserve better.
Let him go, but you’re way too old to be lying about having an orgasm. Probably should’ve stopped that 20 years ago. It’s fairly normal when you’re just getting started having sex as a young adult, but that type of lying helps literally no one, and I don’t blame him for feeling upset about that part.
Hello /u/SwordArm,
Your post was removed for the following reason(s):
Your title did not include at least two ages/genders or was not formatted correctly
Posts must:
include details about the involved parties including ages, genders, and length of relationship, and
request advice in real situations involving two or more people
We are enforcing the two rules listed above by making all titles start with ages/genders in the following format:
[##X][##X], [## X][## X], or [##-X][##-X] where ## is the age and X is the gender (currently M, F, T, A, NB, FTM, MTF but more can be added). You can have more than two ages/genders listed, but you must have at least two at the beginning of your title. Here is an example:
[34NB][88-F] We are two people in an example post
Please resubmit with a corrected title.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
Your boyfriend is an insecure baby back bitch
Hello /u/Still_Lingonberry_76,
Your post was removed for the following reason(s):
Your title did not include at least two ages/genders or was not formatted correctly
Posts must:
include details about the involved parties including ages, genders, and length of relationship, and
request advice in real situations involving two or more people
We are enforcing the two rules listed above by making all titles start with ages/genders in the following format:
[##X][##X], [## X][## X], or [##-X][##-X] where ## is the age and X is the gender (currently M, F, T, A, NB, FTM, MTF but more can be added). You can have more than two ages/genders listed, but you must have at least two at the beginning of your title. Here is an example:
[34NB][88-F] We are two people in an example post
Please resubmit with a corrected title.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
This seems to have almost zero affect on you or your daily life or even your 4 yo daughters for you to put up that much of a fight about something this important to your wife. You get to have your family name as their last name. They will carry your name into the the generations, can't you see that this is a small consolation to your wife? You're being weird and dramatic
Your husband is controlling you
Hello /u/MadToad96,
Your post was removed for the following reason(s):
Your title did not include at least two ages/genders or was not formatted correctly
Posts must:
include details about the involved parties including ages, genders, and length of relationship, and
request advice in real situations involving two or more people
We are enforcing the two rules listed above by making all titles start with ages/genders in the following format:
[##X][##X], [## X][## X], or [##-X][##-X] where ## is the age and X is the gender (currently M, F, T, A, NB, FTM, MTF but more can be added). You can have more than two ages/genders listed, but you must have at least two at the beginning of your title. Here is an example:
[34NB][88-F] We are two people in an example post
Please resubmit with a corrected title.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
Everyone's brave until someone pulls a knife or gun.
He asked for exclusivity so it’s cheating. Call Brenda and let her know. He probably told her they were exclusive also. Drop him and be glad you only wasted 2 months on him.
If you think what was described was “the dark corners of BDSM and beyond” maybe preface your comment with the fact you have no experience in this realm.
There is a problem with abuse in the scene as with anyplace non mainstream that was kicked into high gear via media, however a cornerstone of the whole thing is consent. Like insane amounts of consent, like literal contracts that outline everything, consent. Paired with a community to hold each other accountable to that.
If you think you can go to any organized event or club/dungeon and violate consent rules, you will be unwelcome in a hurry.
The danger is random dudes on the internet wanting to be Doms.
That's fair. I did not understand (and honestly still don't) Beth's initial reaction. But I'm also not impressed that Amy has rejected the idea of all of us traveling together, especially since she did not offer and explanation.
Beth is not aware that Amy said no, but I sure as shit wouldn't be impressed if the shoe was on the other foot with that one.
If you don't mind offering some more advice, I would be really grateful. If you were in this situation, what would you say to Amy? Me rejected a holiday is out of character for me. I don't want to cause any rifts here. Beth would also be paranoid that Amy may think that she is the one the one telling me what to say. I'm a bit autistic, seriously, and struggling with how I need to word this.
She doesn't, it's s just constant snoring. Sleep apnea has crossed my mind though so that may be something to look into further.
Lmao “tight vagina”
If a woman is turned on she is going to be looser.
“You came at him as a fan, and he responded in kind” I must say, I´m impressed by your skills of logical deduction (sarcasm – wasn´t sure if you could read between the lines.)
You deserved better than that
Ask her to be your girlfriend
What I’m confused about is the fact I mentioned I was going to be in his area and he never responded to it
Act like what? Like it's ok for a man to lie and pretend to be into a certain type a woman when they aren't?
I took a few NPD screeners and none of them said I seem to have NPD. One said I could have a mild case. Most of the screeners wanted to know if I like looking at myself and if I think I'm special. I don't find myself aligning with most of these questions.
To paraphrase your example: she was correct and you were wrong, but you insisted she was wrong because you know some similar facts.
That's not being a know-it-all, that's turning a conversation into a contest that you have to win, whether or not you know the subject.
It makes you look like an egotistical idiot. It's also an example of what some people refer to as 'small dick energy'.
Tell her how her vag looks.
Is it an actual crime putting the incorrect parents on a birth certificate. It's an identification certificate so surely having the incorrect names on it would constitute fraud.
Sorry, this would be a deal breaker for me.
Time to have a calm talk. Give your boundaries and consequences. Honestly this won’t work but at least you know you tried. You are going to have to move out. Don’t give your mom a key to your place btw.
I would bet my cotton socks you can get some of the money back. Phone the surgery and discuss. Buy yourself a Hermès bag, lol!
This is such a BS post, no cops are doing anything like OP described cause someone put a package on his car
You don't, the heartbreak is unavoidable and necessary
Yup
I’m with you 100% anyone who thinks different has no clue what’s up. Everything about this reads fake.
You did more than cuddle.
Cuddling is innocent if done platonically. I cuddle my kid, my cat, my pillow and have never breached a “could this be bad” level with any of them. Cuddling is literally just cuddling.
What gets me is you both decided not to tell her. Part of me says “well maybe the wife just is really insecure and this could be one of those white lies to save her sanity” but the wife supposedly encouraged you to go comfort the friend. Insecure people don't do that. So that means your wife is (probably) self-confident and wasn't scared of the two of you.
So if cuddling is innocent, this is your girl's friend, and the two of you decided to keep it from her… It's really, really easy to assume (it's an assumption, let's be real) that you did way more than cuddle.
Begin the trickle-truthing.
I think what people are trying to say is if she resents you for setting limits and asking for help that’s on her, not you. You’re not being unreasonable telling her this isn’t sustainable and you need help. So if she ends up resenting you for that, you’ll know what to do and where you stand.
Good luck man. You can do better than this.
“At the time her doctors told us it would be detrimental to her development if we learned and used sign language with her.” What in the fresh hell ?! This is some of the worst medical advice I have ever heard. I cannot imagine the isolation and bullshit your child had to endure. And then you FORCE a surgery on your child they clearly did not want?! I am sooooo glad your daughter found a life with another deaf person who understands and loves her. And your husband calling your son a f*g? WOOF!!!
You are right that you allowed your husband to bully you into compliance which led to your terrible relationship with your children. Unless you disown it all and treat them like they deserve (love and respect), this is done for. You are lucky you see them at all.
Exactly. Not sure the damage too far gone already, but there will be little hope if he dies and THEN OP decides to try with her kids. I mean the abuse of both children is pretty bad and her allowing it is not something easy to get over, however if she tries why he's still alive it shows her growth and willingness to finally do the right thing. If OP only does that AFTER he passes it looks like she's using them because she's lonely and you would not catch me visiting a mom like that.
I also have a very hot time thinking “there's a wet/sticky/gooey spot on my pillow – SEMEN” is a good mental jump.
I'm not sure how to say this, maybe a professional can help me out. But in a way you're right that it's not a mental jump people make unless they have reason to. Someone whose mind has not just intrusively/accidentally thought of this scenario, but who feels they know what happened, usually has reason to. Please notice, OP didn't describe it as a wet/sticky/gooey spot and therefore probably semen. That is your description of her thought process. And it is probably is your description of her thought process because her freaking out over drool is a safer scenario for you.
A lot of incest abuse sounds outlandish to people who have happily never experienced it. But it is really common. I usually find there is no point in talking about it because people don't want to know, will put words in your mouth to try to make it seem like you're freaking out over nothing.
Please don't imagine a minimised scenario and hope you're right. I know it feels like helping. But it's what everyone does.
If I read you right, you might appreciate some decent books written by qualified experts (i.e. not pop self-help books). And more information might help recalibrate how you choose to receive such information in future.
You're right and should not have been downvoted. She's playing the victim here, but she is the one who broke his heart.
This sounds like your partner is gaslighting you (more than just manipulation) which is also abuse. The more comfortable they feel assaulting you and lying about it, the worse it's going to get. I highly recommend talking to a close friend or family member or a counselor about what's going on at the very least.
Hmm, yes. It seems you’re in a one-sided Facebook-only relationship, and only your FB page not his. He is neither available, reliable or giving you what you want, need and deserve. Are you absolutely certain he’s not still with this baby mumma? The self-esteem is not the reason you’re questioning things, it’s the reason that you’re still with him to begin with. Making it “official” on Facebook is not the same as an actual living and breathing relationship. He has not given that to you yet. And guess what? You deserve to be loved and thought of. You deserve a partner that is proud to be with you. Have you met anyone from his life during this year? A friend or family member?
They're being direct, not rude. You can't convince someone not to cheat. It's admirable that you want to preserve your kid's relationship with their mother. If you think your wife won't talk to your kid if you divorce her, then you have a really tough choice: either look the other way on her behavior or leave. Neither way is easy. Maybe talk to a therapist and get their point of view. Hope it works out for you and your family.
Does it really matter? If you snapped your coworker and they removed you, then it’s obvious she’s not interested in speaking with you outside of work hours both romantically or as a friend. She could have a partner. She could just think it is off putting you’re reaching out. Her reason doesn’t really matter, just let it go. She said she isn’t on her phone much because she is being nice. That’s all.
You went from posting about a “friends with benefits” situation to being engaged in less than a year. Maybe you should slow things down a bit.
You don't want to put your GF in a position where she has to choose between you and her family. Time to have some serious discussions with her. There may be some compromise involved.
He’s always done this but as I get older I don’t see it as normal
And this is why a 24 yo started dating an 18yo. You are only a little younger than he was when the two of you started dating and now you're starting to see how much of his behavior is unacceptable in a respectful relationship between two adults. Would you date an 18yo?
Based on the way you wrote this, you're soft-pedaling the issues in your relationship and with him. Maybe you truly don't think they are a big deal, but I'm thinking it's more likely that you've normalized it after 5 years. Having tantrums every few months and hitting things because you're playing a video game are not the signs of a well-adjusted adult. I'm also guessing the cleanliness issue is more along the lines of “he won't clean up after himself in a timely manner” and not “I'd like deep cleans every week and he'll only agree to them every other week!”
He deserves to be rotting in prison for the rest of his life.
Yes.
Having said that, an old girlfriend of mine got a dachshund that is rather a cock-blocker. Loves me to bits, that dog.
But from the day she got it, it would howl and cry to be let in the bedroom, then separate us. Can’t even go for a smooch without a third tongue being there.
Then I get no sleep for the dog licking me awake throughout the night. Relationship gradually faded out because of dog.
Much of this is because she’s a terrible dog trainer. Possibly due to her ADHD. Also, dachshunds are stubborn and persistent.
I still try to see her occasionally, but same thing happens every time.
She even acknowledges that Queenie is a cock-blocker for other dates. She had a 10-month dry spell last year because Dog.
So yes, your guy seems like an ass, but be careful that you don’t let your dog block all your cock.
I'm not talking about being brutally honest 100% of the time. I'm talking about being honest, in a long term relationship, about sex.
If your partner is gaining weight to the point of being unhealthy or you're losing sexual attraction to them, um yeah, you should probably say something about that, in as kind and sensitive a way as possible. Withholding your true self to spare hurt feelings does not create a stronger partnership long term.
Lying about sex and sexual pleasure is not something I don't think people, most especially heterosexual women, should be doing if they want to be in a satisfied, healthy sexual relationship.
Do you work? If not get a job… it seems like you have too much time on your hands….join a gym or run with your dog..the fastest way to stop drinking and doing stupid stuff is to be very active.
“I moved toward her to go hold her and she just went ballistic. Started crying and hitting me and screaming at me” A minor point, but an important one. What can I say, I'm a pedant.
Took a look at your comment history. I think you work out a lot of your frustrations here on Reddit, which isn't exactly healthy, but I suppose it must be better than lashing out at people IRL. Anyway, your comments, specifically their combative nature, got me to thinking, why am I spending so much time on these outrage porn subs? What am I getting out of it? Why do I let myself get sucked into these arguments with internet strangers? I mean, I don't even really enjoy the debate. No one's arguing in good faith, we're all just fucking with each other. When it's done I'm left feeling kind of gross. In the end I've done nothing for myself or anyone else and I've burned a bunch of time and energy. Picking my toes would have been a significantly better use of my time. I think I'm going to un-sub from r/relationship_advice and AITA. Thanks for inspiration to work through this, and have a good night. Good luck with the gaming and guns and restraining orders and stuff.
I might be a bit controversial here but: his relationship is not your problem.
You didn't coerce him, take advantage, or start anything. Maybe in a perfect world you wouldn't have reciprocated, but it is on him to act in accordance with the rules of the relationship he is in (be it monogamous, open with boundaries, or anything else).
If you are in a position to let his partner know that is absolutely a good thing to do. Not with great drama or insults (they might be in a different style of relationship to what you expect) but just as a heads up that this is happening. If she is informed she can make the decision on what is best for her.
As for him: I can't say he sounds great (if the relationship is closed he did something cruel to his partner and used you to do it, and if the relationship is open he needed to make that clear to you), and I wouldn't persue a relationship with him.
In terms of testing you're an adult and you know how cautious you are or weren't: act accordingly.
It's kind that you are being empathetic enough to worry, and it probably will keep eating you up if you don't say anything. I doubt you'll do the same thing again, and ultimately it is for him to hold the guilt
Do you feel it's awkward? Weird? Who gives a damn about what others think of it? It's your relationship. You and your girlfriend should only do what you two feel is right. Screw the others.
I didn't even read the story and came to say “I want a divorce” but yours is better.
here’s the text, everything worked out so i’m deleting the post. thank you everyone:
My(18f) bf (20m) lied to me about watching porn and now i’m questioning my trust in him.(I am OP)
Hi! I’ll try to make this shirt and sweet but I could really use some advice. Also, i’m on mobile so sorry for any formatting issues.
So, i caught my bf watching porn a month or so because it was under his “frequently visited” on safari. I wasn’t happy about it and we talked about it. I told him I find it disrespectful and don’t want him watching it. He agreed and promised to stop. A few weeks ago, I still saw it on his frequent visits on safari. When I brought it up he said that he didn’t know why it was still there cause he kept deleting it and I chose to believe him.
Fast forward to tonight. He’s been a real dick to me recently because of issues he’s been having a work but I thought that we were doing better. Lo and behold, I see pornhub there, and the tag under it is different. I start by gently nudging and then he told me again “sorry I’ll stop.” I hate to admit it but I went nuclear. Half because this is something we discussed and he apparently can’t stop and cause he lied about it! He told me about 20 mins afterwards that he uses it when he can’t sleep at night to get a load off and go back to bed.
I told him I would send him whatever he needs to help with that. I called him a pussy and yelled at him. I took a few shots and we ended up having sex tonight and he seemed apologetic, but I can’t help feeling betrayed. I find myself overthinking what else he lied about. Does anyone have any advice that doesn’t involve breaking up? I love him to death and I’m not breaking up over something so minimal!
My lid would have been absolutely flipped. It’s happened before and I was a human-shaped thundercloud for the ensuing discussion.
However, that was the first time it happened and there were literally no other red flags happening (I examined things top to bottom). We had it out and it never happened again. ?♀️ Was just a momentary lapse. I think he was even surprised about it.
Examine things very very closely OP. If this is a continuing pattern of disrespect, seriously consider walking away. Humans are human and do some dumb shit occasionally but you have to take it seriously. I’m also curious about the sulking. Did we ever find out why there was sulking?
It’s NEVER okay to put your hands on another person to make your point, but how was the argument going? You said you corrected him in the middle of him making a point. Was the correction pertinent? Was he having trouble making a point? Were you talking over him? Is that a pattern as well? No I’m absolutely NOT blaming you for this occurring, just wondering about your communication strategies also. Getting a bigger picture leading up to the act
My lid would have been absolutely flipped. It’s happened before and I was a human-shaped thundercloud for the ensuing discussion.
However, that was the first time it happened and there were literally no other red flags happening (I examined things top to bottom). We had it out and it never happened again. ?♀️ Was just a momentary lapse. I think he was even surprised about it.
Examine things very very closely OP. If this is a continuing pattern of disrespect, seriously consider walking away. Humans are human and do some dumb shit occasionally but you have to take it seriously. I’m also curious about the sulking. Did we ever find out why there was sulking?
It’s NEVER okay to put your hands on another person to make your point, but how was the argument going? You said you corrected him in the middle of him making a point. Was the correction pertinent? Was he having trouble making a point? Were you talking over him? Is that a pattern as well? No I’m absolutely NOT blaming you for this occurring, just wondering about your communication strategies also. Getting a bigger picture leading up to the act
Really independent people enjoy relationships, too. Dating doesn’t mean you want a spouse and kids.
Do you know what the word “accident” means? It means not on purpose. Also it’s totally normal for couples to talk about masturbation and their toys. I can’t imagine a good relationship where I wasn’t allowed to talk about that stuff with my partner, that’s just a giant red flag for an unsatisfying sex life. You’re jumping on her like she threw it away and called him garbage when she’s just a little insecure about her attractiveness. Seriously dude, take a chill pill.
Recovering alcoholic here.
Of the many things I’ve learned I’m recovery, probably the most important one is that you can’t make ppl forgive you. That has to be on their own time table. And honestly, just a few months of recovery is nothing in terms of proving to them you’ve changed.
I was an atheist before joining AA and now I have a spiritual connection to my higher power. I have learned over the years that us alcoholics always want to be in control of situations, when they aren’t our situations or lives to control. That’s all on God’s time.
You can’t change anything or anyone but yourself. Focus on YOU. Get through the guilt and shame. Get a sponsor. Do the steps. Make your amends.
But the bottom line is that if you REALLY loved your family, you would give them space and time. This is your opportunity to not be selfish. So don’t be.
Also, congrats on your sobriety. It’s a tough road but GOD it’s so worth it. This will all work out according to God’s plan, provided that you just stay sober and keep doing the right thing. Best of luck!!
So end the relationship and get into therapy. Two people can be abusive at the same time.
If you tell her you'd like her to dress in a more feminine way, all she'll hear is that you don't like the way she looks and that you think she appears masculine or tomboyish. If I were you, I'd work on accepting her the way she is, especially if this is how she's always dressed.
My hidden resentment towards him has taken a turn for the worse, and I admit that my love for him is getting in the way. I'm lucky that he didn't say he wanted a divorce after I said this to him or that he didn't get rude. I would really be in a bad mood if he had said those words to me. But I guess he didn't get a big reaction because of what I said in the edit. I want him to be happy and peaceful. I will try to heal these thoughts. You're really right about the ultimatum.
Never seen a woman call herself a cunt, that’s a new one for me
I don't know if you've ever been to a wedding but I can confidently say what happened to OP would not be a cute wedding story.
No the person above you is 100% correct. Action =/= attraction. Asexual people can have sex without being sexually attracted to be person they’re doing it with.
Source: I am ace and spend a lot of time in the community
Victoria Adultwoman. Has had a long career at the business factory and is absolutely not three youngsters in a trench coat.
As a guy, the “oh shit I didn't realize” is such bullshit. Any guy including him would know. It was SA, anyone that cares about you, especially after four years would stop. You gotta kick his ass to the curb .
It might give you the ick, but you should leave it alone because 1. What you’ve presented here doesn’t really necessarily mean what you think it means. 2. It’s none of your business. There wouldn’t be technically anything wrong with it, besides a little ick factor.
Im in therapy right now
You're not here for relationship advice. Your here to whine about the shitty man you have now married and you're not going to leave him. I bet you have already complained to all of your friends and family and they just don't want to hear it anymore. Neither does reddit. Your husband likes to fuck other womens vaginas more than he loves you Marriage doesn't mean shit he is a cheater and plenty of men go on to get married and cheat on their wives. He doesn't love you he just knows you will put up with his cheating it's very hot to find a woman who will let you disrespect them and cheat on them and do all of the work that a wife will do. He needs someone to bare the responsibility of life with him while he still gets to fuck whoever he wants and he has chosen you to be his sucker… Er wife… I hope you grow some self respect and decide you deserve to be loved and happy in life. But a lot of women who Marry cheaters just to stay until their hair is gray and their faces are wrinkled from stress and they gain weight and let themselves go from depression and some even fall so depressed they stop going to the dentist and lose teeth over it. Their husband goes on to leave them for a prettier healthier woman they haven't destroyed yet
Reminds me of the “I used to be a piece of shit” sketch on I Think You Should Leave
Right, if she was in her 50s and also swinging research/admin roles, sure, but 32 is pretty much fresh out of school for them. (ETA) She may have been using a number she expects to get in 5-10 years….?
Nah, wouldn’t be a big deal. Loads of men wear concealer or make up
My mother took care of my father and became a widow early. I will be blunt now. While there may be happy years ahead for you there will me many more horrible years for her to come.
This is incredibly very hot and I’m sorry you both have to experience this situation.
Leave him the hell alone
If I could, I would. I don't have $20 to my name, let alone $100. My husband controls the finances.
If this is your home then give him a 30 day eviction notice, tell him that you'll be going to the sheriff's to alert them of the situation, if after 30 days he's not gone tell him that you will be going back to the sheriff's to have them escort him out. Make sure you give him the eviction in writing and record it if you can in your state, at least take a picture of it, maybe tape it to the bedroom door so that he sees it and you can take a picture of it there also but alert the sheriff for sure.
I will talk to you the way I would talk to my son.
This girl is playing mind games and you should not waste your time in that. If they've gotten worse, it will never stop until you either leave or she gets a rude awakening. Let you be the catalyst to her finally breaking out of her insecurities, which you are not at fault for. Leave the girl. You are young and deserve better. She can and should deal with the consequences of her actions. If there is room for you to take her back after she's changed, then try a relationship with her for a couple of months. Give her three chances before you end things with her, but this time for good.
She really isn't good at all. This is not her finest moment. She destroyed OP's relationship with his BF. That's kinda evil. And, she resents the best friend for her pushing herself on him? WTH. She was on the beach with OP. Then, she left OP to have those 15 secs of bump. Then she came back immediately to OP. It IS eeewy.
I'm not being defensive or implying that she's wrong, like I said if I was unsure about the number of children before, I am more sure now that I see what it is like to take care of 1 kid. After having the 1 kid, we talked and I was definitely less sure about having the second one and in the next months the decision became more sure.
She does hate it when I change my mind though, where I see that as my right to change my mind when new information comes in that makes me question my earlier decisions.
OP has done a deep clean of his post history lol
I'm no therapist but I get the sense that she's somewhat worried about what not giving you PIV sex would mean for your future. I don't know if it's ever come up but that's the feeling I get reading your story. Hope everything works out for you two.
If you stay together you'll be training your kids that a relationship like yours is normal. You are training any daughters you have to essentially accept what you are accepting and training boys that they can emotionally check out of a relationship.
Your boyfriend broke, can’t be fixed. You need a new one. The parts for that one are moldy and gross and it would cost too much to repair.
Words, are quite cheap. You should ask him to message her everything he told her back then were lies. As humiliating as it will be it is something he needs to do to “undo” his behaviour.
I love how British this all is. I mean, hey, I get drunk every weekend at 31. But I can function the next day and stop when I've had enough. If she's not drinking everyday. She might not be a alcoholic. But she has a drinking problem and they're drifting apart in terms of the life they want to lead
Why are you refusing simple biologically of life. This isn’t shocking stuff.
Women may be unhappy. Those issues can be addressed separately. They probably shouldn’t be having children to begin with if that is your biggest issue.
Denying nature because you feel it’s a burden is unfortunately more feminist ideology.
We need mother’s that want to be mothers and this pressing selfish interests has no value to the family.
No, your career has no value to a successful man. It only has value to those that can’t afford a SAHM.
There is no good amount of time to be working. Why you choose to be away from the prime years of your children for a company that would gladly replace you in a second is the biggest trick feminism pulled.
It doesn’t need to be something you fear. It’s unfortunate but not surprising you feel against being a full time mother.
Each partner has a duty. The day you were sold that having time with your own children was a burden, was the cruelest hit to the family.
It matters about the man because he’s the primary provider. That’s the cycle of life. It may be upsetting but such is life.
“Doesn’t value your pleasure” what about his?
I personally just don’t like pda because it makes me uncomfortable to do that in front of others. It’s not a red flag, just boundaries. You can decide if this is a dealbreaker for you or not, but he’s totally valid in having those boundaries as well! I wish you the best of luck OP.
No shit. Everyone finds multiple people attractive I am attracted to many people but I don’t masturbate to fantasies of them in my head because im FAITHFUL to my relationship unlike some of y’all in the comments. Don’t strew my words around, I never once said you can’t be attracted to people while in a relationship or be attracted to multiple people at once.
You can see it from space.
Thank you for saying this! If I told my husband he could fuck somebody else he'd think i wanted a divorce but was too childish to just say that. Or that i had somebody else on the side already and was guilty . It would never be like “oh sweet ok let me get this search going!”
I'm sorry you're so sad. And you are doing SO WELL, also!! I'm happy that therapy is going well and hopefully you are learning new ways to express yourself. I would suggest that you not make a habit of drinking. All that will do is add another problem. If you have a readiness to move forward and dip your toe back in the dating pool, that seems like a good idea. Don't minimize the good work and the good changes going on inside of you.
Just say very coolly and casually that you expect her to pay you back for their drinks. And then don't back down.
I think it's reasonable for her to help herself to a drink on you while you chatted with your friend, but not to pick up the whole tab!
Can confirm. Bigger doesn’t mean better, whether it be they don’t know how to use it, or it’s literally too big and hurts. I’ve slept w small peens who were good and bad, and big peens that were mostly bad lol
Time for your next chapter
You're right about me being relentless this time. I usually am not like this with others. I think this time, I wanted to male sure that I tried my best to save it. Which, again, you're right. I was worried about coming off as the “bad guy”. The 5+ month estimate is actually on me. I asked him how long and he said “many many months”. So I asked him “5+ ?” And he said yes. You're also right about me being immature which has posed as a problem before, early on in the relationship, as well. I suppose there is a lot I need to consider. I figured the relationship was probably over when he asked about the break, but I wanted to delay the realisation a bit.
Wow that’s an incredibly relatable story. Fortunately like I said these are not really my friends just people in my fraternity I am friendly with. I appreciate the relatable advice though it’s a great perspective. I’ll know more further down the line in this relationship although I’m insecure enough to ask Reddit for help I couldn’t imagine acting like that in person. Thanks again for the story I appreciate it.
You’re right.. this is a YOU problem. And your man just knew it for barely a week. Get a grip
End this relationship.
He is not being respectful to your needs andd you are being physically abusive toward him.
No one should be leaving bruises on their partners without their expressed affirmative consent. If you're lashing out physically because the two of you are not communicating verbally – then you need to end this.
All that stuff is performative. Carries you when it’s raining? Thinking you need to be responsible for his bad behaviors is how he actually views relationships. Opening car doors doesn’t matter if this is how he thinks.
Man you need to grow up. Sex is more than just penetrating the vagina with your penis (if your friends don't know that, they might be pretty bad at it) and a man having sex with a woman is by definition not gay. -> Your gf pegging you is not gay.
Also IF you were gay, openly or secretly, that wouldn't be any reason to be concerned.
Is your name Bill?
OP, you're in an abusive relationship. There's no fixing this. You need to get out. Going to couples' therapy with an abusive partner doesn't help, it only makes the abuse worse. You're making excuses for his behavior, but there are none. You're in danger, living with him. Hitting things escalates to hitting people. Read the book Why Does He Do That, it's available for free on-line. Please, take care of yourself ♥️
People are hammering on this because your relationship didn't even start the way you're saying it is. “Every healthy relationship is based on respecting what the two agreed”…yet you agreed to be open originally.
So the point is that, asking about it isn't necessarily a sin or breaching your boundaries. But, if you feel you can't continue in this relationship or asking about swinging is a dealbreaker, then that's fine too.
If it's a dealbreaker, not sure why you're posting though. Just break up. That's the definition of dealbreaker.
I think the key thing here too is that the relationship started open as well. Very much no surprise or foul there.
You can lock individual files as well, or folders.
give him a chance and you may change your mind
Pets are property under the law and it’s theft to take them.
That fact he's not acting this way or similar is a huge red flag.
Right up until this line:
> to get out of things like doing the dishes,
I was thinking sensory issues – but when it becomes apparent that the outcomes of this behaviour is less 'nice' dates and getting waited on hand and foot…
Geeze
To be frank even if its sensory issues its still manipulative, its not correct to expect your partner to leap to your every whim and drop everything for an issue like this.
What really worries me OP is this is being presented as his feelings are beyond important – how long before things YOU do start triggering him and its YOUR fault because you “know how he is” and his control increases even further.
You're already burnt out catering to this – sounds like you're living with him?
Do you want to be his third baby mama? Although for all you know there’s another child out there, apparently he doesn’t practice safe sex & has a questionable relationship with the truth.
Do you want to have to base financial decisions on his child support payments? Are you okay with a man that will just ignore their own child? Are you okay with knowing he’s a liar? With never really knowing what else he’s lying about? This isn’t a healthy relationship, and love is not enough to make a relationship healthy or smart.
Well, I don't know this guy, but I wager the real core of all of these “judging” activities is him trying to control how you go out and who you go out with. Not in an explicit “I WON'T ALLOW THIS” way but it's probably still an attempt to exert some control.
Kinda my brain rn. Sorry boss. I threw in the tldr if there's too much going on for ya
Sounds good for you two. Try having a relationship with A, it sounds like it's working. M can suck a fat one.
When a person shows you who they are , believe them the first time. She showed you who she was. You should've believed her
I would sit down with her, give concrete examples of her poor communication, and tell how it makes you feel [upset/hurt/unsupported].
This would be completely out of line.
DO you trust her though? It’s a free night in a hotel. This is probably a great opportunity for her to make professional connections.
If you feel unsafe you need to go to the police if you can, or contact local women services
Yo, it's not your job to protect her. She's an adult and she can do that for herself.
I feel like Ive been under some enchantment and discovered that the person I loved isn't real.
Almost seeing this trap you just walked into. I'd run. This change after the proposal seems off. Don't worry what others think, it's your life and nothing to be ashamed about. She should be ashamed of yourself, not you. She trapped you and now showing her other side. Not pretty.
Call 211 – they can assist you with finding shelter. I'm presuming you're in the US.
You know exactly who this guy is OP. You know it. Act accordingly before your kids are helping you gather your teeth off the floor. Please get this pos out of your life.
This is the universe asking once more, have you overcome this? Will the caterpillar become a butterfly?
If this person should ever come back into your life, it must be on their terms after what they endured from you. No matter how much work you've done or how much time has passed.
Find a new boyfriend.
Dump him, and there's your stress gone.
Tell me again why you want to share your news with these people at all? If they're just going to be cruel about it, why tell them? Just go about your life, go low contact, invite them to nothing, and when they find out tell them they had proved they could not be trusted to be supportive to you, so you don't want them involved with your life.
This is just a bad troll post. Do better next time.
Stop spreading misinformation. Death grip syndrome does not exist and is not recognised by a SINGLE medical professional or medical entity. It's a sexist myth.
OP's boyfriend is just a manipulative POS.
It’s really this simple. You are being gaslit. Get out.
You're an adult. Make your own choices, same as for your girlfriend
No but I stay there every weekend because my dog has cancer and I want to spend time with him. So it’s a temporary thing
He cheated on you multiple times and that is just what you have found out. What you find is usually the tip of the iceberg.
I know you love him but I think you're setting yourself up for a world of hurt if you stay with him. Most honest people never, ever cheat or cheat once and never do it again. Your partner has betrayed you multiple times and you only found out because you looked for it. He didn't feel guilty and tell you.
so I can focus on one day opening a restaurant.
i know how very hot it us to give up on a dream but opening up a restaurant is insanely unlikely to be successful..do you know how many people want to open restaurants? Lots and very few are successful and all of them work insane hours.
I really think you need to move on. If you don't, you will be wasting your time and you will regret it.
And he answered very specifically just not the exact nanosecond you wanted. And it turns out it's a perfect reasonable amount of time. But you had to jump to a conclusion because he didn't produce a spreadsheet of time within two minutes.
If somebody told me he didn’t want me to come along on a night out, I’d be out of there for good.
My fiancé never learned to drive (well not true, he was taught, he just didn’t get his license because he didn’t have a need) and we on-line in a city, but obviously that isn’t going to work for you. One of his past relationships ended because he lived in a place where he couldn’t go anywhere without a car and so his partner resented him similarly but he also felt isolated and trapped because of it, so it was a lose/lose. Now me? I have a license, but don’t own a car, I also prefer driving whenever we need to anyways so it works out well for us because our needs and our skills and priorities are compatible. If this isn’t going to change and he isn’t going to change it, then it sounds like you guys aren’t and that’s OK.
Brad is trying to organise a threesome
She was 21.
How is any of that your responsibility to attend to? It's not!
Keeping up the act until his exit plan came up. He just kept going with the normal routine until he was ready to go. The bottom line is he knew it was going to end long before you did so he had time to prepare while you didn't.
Trying to figure out what happened, why it happened or what could have prevented it isn't going to solve anything. Your mental health is the important thing and having him in your life, keeping tabs on him and trying to engage in conversation when he clearly doesn't want to is all negatively impacting you. Block everything, talk to someone about your mental health and stay away from the dating scene until you're in a better place mentally.
I will
If you really care for someone you don’t talk shit about them face to face or behind their backs.
this is definitely abuse. your GF is a terrible person. you say you dont want to leave bc youre scared you wont find anyone else, and ill say 1. you will definitely find someone else at some point, but you must leave in order to get to that point. and 2. its better to be alone anyway than in a relationship with someone like this. you said before dating her you'd only get depressed for only a day, and now it lasts weeks. she isolates you socially and beats you down emotionally (and i guess physically too) im order to exert control and make you feel like you cant be without her. you dont need her. i know youre an adult, but you should talk to your parents about what youre going through. as others have suggested, therapy would be worthwhile as well. you have the strength within you to leave, you just have to find it. you will be so much better off without her, i promise you.
I know there is a very good chance you won’t believe this, but you are in an abusive relationship. You say you’ve been in an abuse relationship before, and you’re in one now.
You say you don’t think he will direct his violence towards you. He already is. He can control his violence because I guarantee you he doesn’t respond to upsets at work by kicking furniture and screaming. He does it around you because he knows it affects you, keeps you afraid of him.
Please listen to the comments in this post. You are posting here because you know it’s not right:
Oh friend, your wife is cheating.
They are seriously incompatible because she’s a woman. The guy shouldn’t be dating one.
This is old, right? I swear I read this last year, when COVID was actually peaking in India. Even my very cautious friends are currently in India with their kids.
Hey OP, is this your boyfriend?
As a dude I will say this seems like he is into you but flirting safely. I am in the same boat with a female co-worker but I am 35 and she is 24.
He is treating you how i treat her. I buy her coffee or get her a soda then go to her area and hang out. I make sure to make eye contact. I think she likes me back because she left me a note with a heart drawn on it and recently told me she dumped her long distance boyfriend.
Yeahhh, your mother doesn't appear to like you, in fact she seems to resent you, probably because her life is miserable and you have the opportunity to have a better life than her.
When it comes to hateful and resentful people, the best things are:
Information diet. Stop telling your parents anything important or personal, as this gives them the opportunity to undermine and sabotage you. I know it feels horrible to keep secrets from your parents and go behind their backs, but anyone who laughs in your face about losing out on a job and getting dumped is not someone you can safely share with. Grey rock them. Resentful and hateful people feel the burning need to make other people miserable, and if they see they can get a rise out of you they will keep hammering on your buttons. You're also an attractive target because your parents see you might have a better life than them, and this probably pisses them off. Unfortunately some parents want their children to survive, but not thrive. Just as a race horse owner doesn't really care about their horse's hopes and dreams, some parents have the same attitude towards their kids. Distance. Distance and avoidance is key with obnoxious individuals. Move out and allow them to stew in their own swamp of their misery and dysfunction.
I have been dating an alcoholic for 5 years. (F72) (M74). I’m a widow and my husband of 42 yrs didn’t drink so I didn’t have any idea about the horrible consequences. I mean it’s every night, either 2 bottles of wine or a big bottle of Jack Daniels. I don’t drink and so I’m alone in this situation. I’m at the end of my life and it looks very bleak I have no idea how long it can go on before he is dead. I do not nag. I give gentle advice but I feel like it falls on deaf ears. When he is drunk he says the most terrible things to me and I leave and go home. I have done this several times but he calls me a few days later and says he’s very sorry and asks me to come back. I truly don’t want to but he cries and I succumb to his telling me he will change but he never does. He tells me he loves me and I used to love him back, but I am done because of the drinking. I give this out as advice because I have learned that loving an alcoholic is awful for everyone involved.
I’d say nope no one is ever boring it’s just about how communication has been going
You go on these vacations by yourself, to – I assume – recharge, connect with yourself, get some alone time, etc – yet you’re broken hearted because your husband wasn’t on the phone with you for hours at a time? To me, yes, this is an overreaction. I think you need to enjoy the solo time and disconnect a bit.
Don't think this counts as a relationship. Just wanted to let that out and any advice would be great.